Welcome welcome! This topic was on my heart so I guess you know what that mean, lol. Time to blog about it…
So, first thing first. Just to lay the foundation, I’ve been married for almost 10 years. But to be honest, only in the last 2-3 years have I started to understand the value of MY role as a wife/mother. The wisdom I enclose is solely based on scripture, experience and wisdom obtained through the conviction of The Holy Spirit.
Let’s get to it! I know there are so many exciting things occurring around the globe. So much to get involved in, so much to embrace! BUT, your family should be your first priority. What is family? Just so we’re clear, YOUR family consist of your spouse + your kids. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”- Genesis 2:24 NKJV. Now, I’m not saying or implying that it isn’t okay to take care of others because scripture tells us to love others, but it is very clear me must steward the domain God entrusted to us. Here is another scripture: “But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”– I Timothy 5:8 NKJV. Wow, now that’s powerful. Neglecting your home is worse than being an unbeliever.
What do I mean by family first? Lets dissect the Proverbs 31 Woman. I will go line by line so bare with me here.
“She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants. She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms.”
Proverbs 31:15-17 NKJV
1. She rise and provides for her household. Meaning preparing them to conquer the day.
2. She then works, considering a vineyard and buying it. Translation, she was involved in real-estate. Making MAJOR moves! How inspiring?!
3. She makes a profit, she is in the business of closing deals. Exciting!
4. She girds herself with strength (because we all get weary)
Whew! That’s powerful. Now, I’m not insinuating that you have to simply be a “homebody” or “housewife” but what I am stating is that before we as women venture off and become involved in the affairs of the world, we must first properly attend to our homes. Even if you have to rise early, don’t neglect your family. So, what does this look like. Here are few examples, although they may vary from home to home.
- Ladies, make sure you prepare meals for your family. If you’re too busy to cook or prepare, reevaluate your day. This should be planned out for the day when you rise. I typically know by Saturday what I will prepare for the week ahead. Grocery shopping ahead of time to help with the flow of our family. Avoid the question, so what are we going to eat?
- Next, make sure your home is clean, clothes are washed, kids have the homework done (or activities written out on a calendar), etc. There is nothing worse than preparing a kid for an activity then realizing, ooops, the uniform isn’t clean. If you’re not a wife, yet, consider this wisdom for the future.
- Lastly, Prepare your affairs so you’re not running in circles. What I found to be insightful is this, the scripture states she considers then she buys. To me, she’s done her research. As women, we should be prepared to discuss our businesses, our events, or any other thing we’re involved in with confidence.
Your life will flow better when you prep, plan THEN execute. Be attentive to your family, God has blessed you with it. I know it seem like a lot for one to handle, but organizing your days helps to add value to your virtue. It’s okay to fellowship and be involved, but not at the expense of neglecting and/or rejecting your family. Remember, Family First!
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