“Lessons in Leadership”

Leadership is soooo unique, yet it is full of lessons within every experience and encounter. I’ve probably been a leader my entire life. No seriously, I was always somewhere leading somebody at some point in life! Leading is/was something that has always came naturally! Now was I good at it? Maybe not always, but I can assure you, I’ve learned a thing or two along the way. 

  1. You MUST be willing to lose in order to gain. 

As I stated in my book, Fighting Fear, “There is a lesson attacked to every loss”. Reality is, you can’t be a people pleaser! You MUST lead others OUT of a situation and/or circumstance. This component is often forsaken. People magnify the title of leadership without magnifying the impact of leadership. 

From a scriptural standpoint, Jesus lost the respect of the Pharisee’s due to his unique ability of leadership. He knew his mission, and it did not consist of pleasing the religious leaders (Matthew 9). Ultimately, he lost his life. BUT he gained it back through God’s resurrecting power! What are you willing to lose? 

     2.  You must be okay with being set apart. 

Let’s be honest for a moment. Now, I know some are just utterly disgusted with our President, BUT he is an ideal leader in terms of being set apart. Why? Because he is both STRONG and BOLD. May be a little tooooooooo strong but he does not have a problem being set apart from other government leaders. Now before I lose you, lol, try to place your biases to the side and focus in on the title on of the blog post. “Lessons in Leadership”. 

     3. You must be humble enough to be led.

On the same token, back to The President, we see that his boldness limits the amount of influence from others. As leaders, we must be humble enough to try new things, accepting a different perspective. Let’s take Jesus for example. He was humble enough to follow the commands from his mother, Mary, when asked to turn water into wine although he knew his time had not yet come (John 2:1-11). Despite knowing this truth, he submitted to her request which turned into a beneficial component in the way he led others. 

If you are a leader, how is your conduct? I don’t mean when you’re in that role of “leadership”. I mean at all times. As leaders in The Kingdom, we have an obligation to learn lessons and lead by example. 
What are some biblical leadership lessons you’ve learned in life? Don’t be shy, share them below. 
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SHE 

Heart Attack 

“Heart Attack”

The heart is a very important component in your body. According to the American Heart Association, nearly 375,000 Americans die each year from Heart Disease. This a very HIGH number of Americans dying per year. All in connection with the heart. The irony in the spiritual realm is this, God speaks to us about the importance of guarding your heart (Proverbs 4:23). When I think of guarding, protection comes to mind. The scripture noted above states from the heart, flows the issues of life. 

In terms of the natural, the heart when functioning properly, pumps blood throughout the entire body. Supplying both oxygen and nutrients. When it is clogged, the supply of blood is blocked and can produce severe health problems, even death. Stay with me, I’m going somewhere. The blood is very important and it works in conjunction with the heart. What’s in the heart? Well I’m glad you asked! When looking through the lens of Christ, the heart is controlled by two things. 

  • 1. The Mind (Thoughts) – This helps you to make sound decisions and good judgements. 
  • 2. The Soul- The part that produces senses, feelings, emotions. 

If the wrong behaviors, thoughts, or actions consume your heart, it will stop or limit the good behaviors, thoughts or judgements from flowing freely. I wrote all of that to express the importance of an heart check. Not just to prevent from a physical heart attack but also a spiritual heart attack. When the wrong ideas and thoughts consume your mind, it will produce the wrong behaviors in your life. In your heart, you can think or misconstrue the toxicity because sometimes wrong feels right. The right we should strive for is the righteousness that produces holiness. Search your heart. Better yet, ask God to search your heart as the text in Psalms 139:3 states. 

In Matthew 9:4, Jesus asked the scribal(s), why did they have evil in their hearts? Just to give a paraphrased synopsis, the scribes where questioning why Jesus would heal a paralyzed man. One key in this entire story that I learned today is that we don’t have any control over who Jesus use or heals. He (Jesus) wasn’t looking for perfection in the paralyzed man, he was looking for him to simply follow AFTER the miracle was performed. 

Ask yourself, has my heart caused me to judge others harshly due to what I have stored! Do yourself a favor and repent, and filter out your heart with his blood. That is, the blood of Christ. Asking to be purified and cleaned of the toxicity that dwells there. Remember the ultimate goal of life should be to live in such a way that pleases Christ. 

I pray this blessed you, 

SHE 

“Family FIRST” 

Welcome welcome! This topic was on my heart so I guess you know what that mean, lol. Time to blog about it… 

So, first thing first. Just to lay the foundation, I’ve been married for almost 10 years. But to be honest, only in the last 2-3 years have I started to understand the value of MY role as a wife/mother. The wisdom I enclose is solely based on scripture, experience and wisdom obtained through the conviction of The Holy Spirit. 

Let’s get to it! I know there are so many exciting things occurring around the globe. So much to get involved in, so much to embrace! BUT, your family should be your first priority. What is family? Just so we’re clear, YOUR family consist of your spouse + your kids. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”- Genesis‬ ‭2:24‬ ‭NKJV‬‬. Now, I’m not saying or implying that it isn’t okay to take care of others because scripture tells us to love others, but it is very clear me must steward the domain God entrusted to us. Here is another scripture: “But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”– ‭I Timothy‬ ‭5:8‬ ‭NKJV‬. Wow, now that’s powerful. Neglecting your home is worse than being an unbeliever. 

What do I mean by family first? Lets dissect the Proverbs 31 Woman. I will go line by line so bare with me here. 

“She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants. She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms.”


‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31:15-17‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


1. She rise and provides for her household. Meaning preparing them to conquer the day. 

2. She then works, considering a vineyard and buying it. Translation, she was involved in real-estate. Making MAJOR moves! How inspiring?! 

3. She makes a profit, she is in the business of closing deals. Exciting! 

4. She girds herself with strength (because we all get weary) 
Whew! That’s powerful. Now, I’m not insinuating that you have to simply be a “homebody” or “housewife” but what I am stating is that before we as women venture off and become involved in the affairs of the world, we must first properly attend to our homes. Even if you have to rise early, don’t neglect your family. So, what does this look like. Here are few examples, although they may vary from home to home. 

  • Ladies, make sure you prepare meals for your family. If you’re too busy to cook or prepare, reevaluate your day. This should be planned out for the day when you rise. I typically know by Saturday what I will prepare for the week ahead. Grocery shopping ahead of time to help with the flow of our family. Avoid the question, so what are we going to eat? 
  • Next, make sure your home is clean, clothes are washed, kids have the homework done (or activities written out on a calendar), etc. There is nothing worse than preparing a kid for an activity then realizing, ooops, the uniform isn’t clean. If you’re not a wife, yet, consider this wisdom for the future.
  • Lastly, Prepare your affairs so you’re not running in circles. What I found to be insightful is this, the scripture states she considers then she buys. To me, she’s done her research. As women, we should be prepared to discuss our businesses, our events, or any other thing we’re involved in with confidence. 

Your life will flow better when you prep, plan THEN execute. Be attentive to your family, God has blessed you with it. I know it seem like a lot for one to handle, but organizing your days helps to add value to your virtue. It’s okay to fellowship and be involved, but not at the expense of neglecting and/or rejecting your family. Remember, Family First! 
SHE 
P.s Don’t forget, my new book Fighting Fear is now available on Amazon.com. Grab your copy today. 

Guesssssss what!!! My new book is here and I am sooooo excited. Fighting Fear is a book of hope. We all struggle with many facades of fear and in this piece of literature, I reveal a few Fear moments I encountered, as well as how I overcame and are still overcoming some aspects of fear in life and in business. One thing I know for certain is that the enemy has a vendetta against your purpose. If he can halt, hinder, or block your greatness, he would. 

For many of you, you’ve hidden your dreams because they simply did or do not make sense. But let me remind you, when you downplay you, you ultimately down play God. Yahweh has equipped you to make a difference in this world, don’t you dare allow fear to interfere with the greatness that lay internally. Your business pursuits, your gift, your talents… they’re possible. They are ALL possible. The ideas you think about you, it’s possible. The program you want to implement, it’s possible. The job you envision, it’s possible. It’s ALL possible! 

I encourage you, push past the fear you feel and enter into a life of trust, walking victoriously in your purpose. 
You can order my NEW book here on Amazon. Oh and for those of you are always pondering on if you had this you’d do it , if you had that, you would be much better off…. allow me to give you a little background information on SHE. I am a first generation everything. First generation college student AND grad, first to obtain a Master’s Degree, first generation entrepreneur and NOW a first generation Author… you can do it when you focus in on what you DO have! Purpose… My mom didn’t have a high school education and my dad, well he completed high school but that’s about it. Am I ashamed, nope! I learned from it all and PUSHED towards the mark even though ALL odds were against me. I didn’t have a road map, to help me figure out my goals. Didn’t have a mentor, guide, or anyone that could get me to the vision God implanted in my heart. All I had was a desire for more, so I pushed and pressed. And guess what? You can too…. So, it’s not about what you possess physically but what you have internally. If you have passion + drive that equals purpose! Go for it, start by ordering my New Book today for practical tools and applications that will help you along the way!

 Eeeeeeeekkkkkk! I am über excited. Can you tell?! Lol. 

Have a great week ON purpose! 

SHE 

Freedom! It’s not always free…. Cliche’, maybe so, but follow me for a moment. As defined, we know freedom is the following:
free·dom

ˈfrēdəm/

the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.

Now historically speaking, we’ve been “free” for a mighty long time. But do you actually feel free? Do you live free? Do you believe that you’re free? I’m asking these simple questions because we live in a time where “freedom” is preached but goals are not reached. I literally had to stare at the definition for a moment. To act without a hinderance? Are you acting without a hinderance? Not allowing ANYTHING to get in your way! Are you following dreams? Are you thinking the way you want or are your views being tainted by the media. 

When I think about “Freedom”, I think about being able to conquer life, because God gave you the freedom to believe. He gave you the freedom to serve him, which is all powerful and all knowing. If you KNOW him, believe in him, and trust his will for your life. Are you living like it? So again I ask, are you really FREE? 

The day I became free is the day I let go of every fear that limited me from being the best version of myself. I am free to be ALL God created me to be. So are you, it’s time to LIVE like you’re FREE… #BreakFREE 

Don’t forget my new book will be available this month. It’s no longer available for Pre-Order, but it will be on Amazon.com. 
Last thing, don’t forget to follow me on twitter here _SHEMinistries… 

Have a great day and remember, YOU ARE FREE! 

SHE 

“5 Keys Facts to Remember as a Child Of God” 

As Christians, the opposition can be very heavy. What do I mean by opposition? Well let’s see… opposition as defined means something that opposes or something that is up against us. So with Christians, the opposition comes from Satan. His plan, as we all know is to kill, steal and destroy.  I remember saying when I was a young girl, I didn’t need to have it “all together” until I was older. I’ve since understood that we simply don’t know the time nor the hour of Jesus’s return. Because I don’t know, I might need to get it together, like now. I also understand that God expects us to eventually mature and although we will never be perfect, we can make every effort to change and represent Jehovah well. Don’t you think?! 

Okay, so let’s get to it. Here are 5 keys to remember as a Child of God: 

  • For you are a holy people to the LORD your God; the LORD your God has chosen you to be a people for His own possession out of all the peoples who are on the face of the earth- Deuteronomy 7:6 

Do you understand that YOU yes YOU are a holy people. Many people think they have to earn this belt of truth. Let me remind you, it is given not earned. We could never do anything to “earn” his love. Remember how chosen and holy you are as you embrace the remainder of your day! 

  •   Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, ‘children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.’ Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky -Philippians 2:14-15 

You don’t have to complain or argue. God expects us to be pure and live a life that shines bright. We can’t do that if we are constantly complaining. I know the world has given us a way to be extra opinionated by way of social media but we don’t have to give in to that. Our light shines from walking blamelessly and in pure form.

  • Matthew 5:13-16 

““You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men. “You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.”

“Don’t hide your light, let it shine”- Sister Geraldine 

As children of The Most High God, we are to look different, and have a holy flavor and be Ye seperate from the world. His word in another scripture states to be IN the world but not OF the world. 
I went to a Godly Girl Talk meeting last Friday. The speaker, Ms. Geraldine, did a phenomenal job with informing us about our conduct. We can’t hide our light, we have to be bold and filled with his goodness. Although the enemy comes, we can bring it right back to him. Bring it God’s way. By putting on the FULL armor of God. Utilizing the word in the war!!! Godly Girls was so awesome!!! 

  • “But know that the LORD has set apart for Himself him who is godly; The LORD will hear when I call to Him. Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah”

This is one of my all time favorite scriptures. The Lord has set you apart! The enemy like to use this in a negative manner, making you feel different, as if it’s a bad thing. You are set apart for his glory. Embrace it.

  • Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set youa free from the law of sin and death- Romans 8:1-2

Did you know that?! Nobody can condemn you if you’re in Christ Jesus. Today’s culture is quick to point out our flaws with no reverence to correction for holiness. But here we are reminded, you don’t have to hold your past or shortcomings up like billboard. You are freed from the law of sin and death. Live like it. He’s declared you the following:

  1. Holy
  2. Pure 
  3. The Salt and Light of The Earth 
  4. Set Apart 
  5. And FREE 

Remember all of the above and go out and be great. 

Remember, my NEW book Fighting Fear: The Road to Entrepreneurship is available for Pre-Order here SOPH Consulting
Can you believe it, I posted on a Monday!!! Lol. I’m getting better! 

Be blessed,

SHE 

Blogging,  Blessings & Books 

When I was a little girl, my mom often stated that God worked in mysterious ways. While I thought this was an old wives tale, THIS logic was actually very true. His ways are very mysterious. The scripture states in Proverbs 16:9 “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps”. I am literally living this out in plain sight. 

About 4 years ago, I started a career that I spent many seasons praying for . In my mind, I was thinking “Mama, I made it”. But God was like “this will be a short lived career”. Not literally, but it sure did seem like he said that, verbatim. Lol. 

I worked in this career for 3 1/2 years. While I enjoyed my career choice, it simply was not fulfilling. So, here I was, back to praying and fasting. But this time, my prayer was for me to be in the will of God. Well, God’s will was something I literally ran from. Like seriously ran from. His will for me, during this season was to be home. Attentive to my role as a wife and mother. Now, many of you may be thinking wait what?! Yes, you read correctly. God wanted me home. 
I literally fought this idea, not realizing “at home” was a greater blessing that I could ever begin to comprehend. So now, guess what? SHE is a Fulltime Entrepreneur and guess what else, SHE is now a published author. Eeeeeeeeeeekkkkkk! Gosh, who knew God was positioning me for my purpose?! In my NEW book “Fighting Fear: The Road To Entrepreneurship”, I tell you all about my road to Entrepreneurship, give wisdom and tools to fight the fear many of us struggle with. We ALL struggle with some form of fear when embracing new territory. We all have a desire for something other than what we’ve settled for, and I address it all. Although I discuss my road to entrepreneurship, there is wisdom for every leader, whether you’re a mom or a market place employee.
 You can Pre-Order Fighting Fear: The Road To Entrepreneurship here at SOPH Consulting

Writing has always been my passion. God has transitioned me from blogging to blessings to books. I’m so excited! Don’t forget to follow my business pages on Instagram here at SOPH Consulting and FB here at SOPH Consulting

I’m über excited; ready for God to continue to BLOW my mind. Once again, you can preorder today! 
SHE